Dating iceberg

Dating iceberg
	dating_iceberg_v2 — Wingman.live index chart
Field	Internet folklore / index
Also known as	dating game lore iceberg, dating_iceberg_v2
Origin	wingman.live chart (dating_iceberg_v2, 2026)
Related	Pickup artist; Seduction Wiki:Point of view; Authenticity

The dating iceberg is a ten-layer chart of dating and pickup lore, from folk clichés above the waterline to Wingman in-jokes on the floor. The version indexed here is dating_iceberg_v2 (Downloads, 8 September 2026), with thumbnail jokes in the margin.^[1]

Layers 1–2 are mostly folk advice and pop slang. Layers 3–6 are where named pickup jargon lives — those phrases get articles. Layers 7–10 mix a few real ideas with tongue-in-cheek entries; the jokes stay on this page. Layer 9 includes the line “just be yourself” only works if you’ve built a self — see Authenticity.

Appearance slang on the chart (looksmaxxing, mewing, gaitmaxxing, jestermaxxing, bone-smashing) belongs on the sister wiki.

How to read it

Layers	What it is	What the encyclopedia does
1–2	Folk / pop slang	Glossary pages or redirect here. Method is not "be nice."
3–4	First real jargon	Real articles for named terms.
5–6	Named technique plus maxxing jokes	Techniques get pages. Welfaremaxxing is the unemployed-vs-go-getter observation. Appearance-maxxing lines belong on the sister wiki.
7–8	In-jokes plus a few real frames	Real terms resolve. Mormonism does not get a method page.
9–10	Floor jokes, mystic frames, wingman.live	Index only, except "built a self."

Layer 1 (sky)

Just be yourself · be a good listener · be nice to her · do favors for her · honesty is attractive · make her laugh · green flags / red flags · The friend zone · Situationship

Layer 2

Breadcrumbing · compliment her personality · confidence is attractive · don't be needy · Don't text back immediately · Open body language · Attachment styles · Love bombing · The ick · be vulnerable but not too soon · Don't simp · passion and drive are attractive · women love tall guys · The double text · Eye contact builds connection

Layer 3

Don't always be available · Approach anxiety · Number close · Cold approach · playful teasing · Sexual market value · tech guys don't get laid despite money · Shit tests · no-contact after breakup · NoFap · value · logistics · 3-second rule · Daygame · indicators of interest · One-itis · sigma male · Social circle game · red pill · Hypergamy · Set a time and place · Learn to take rejection · Sexual conversation bridge · game · assholes get the girl · Let her talk about herself

Layer 4

Venue transition · Don't chase · Desire cannot be negotiated · Boundaries are attractive · frame control · Negging · Isolation · LMR · Push-pull · Don't be a friend · Canned openers · Cocky funny · Mirroring · AMOG · Cold reading · Deep diving · Attraction before comfort · Social proof · Peacocking · Body count · Buying temperature · Show, don't tell · Kino escalation · Game matters more than looks · False time constraints · Plate spinning · Build intrigue, not familiarity

Layer 5

Danger is sexy · Agree and amplify · Auto-rejection · Never explain, never justify · Cat string theory · sexualize yourself · Investment asymmetry · mewing · Field reports · Keep the tension alive · Time bridge · The man with everyone's attention · gaitmaxxing · 7-hour rule · DHV · Welfaremaxxing · Preselection · The Cube · Disqualification · Emotional anchoring · Inner game · Never seek approval · Sarging · Counter-signaling · State pumping

Layer 6

compliance ladder · looksmaxxing · Abundance mentality · Fractionation · girls are silly and cute · Implied sexuality · Don't fix her problems · dream game · Draw with your presence · IOI scanning · Over-gaming · jestermaxxing · femcel mirror-vision · Absence is presence · Congruence · Dread game · microexpressions · Chad / Stacy · social-media maxxing · dating apps are 85% men · passport bros · monk mode

Layer 7

Status is communicated nonverbally · Women give wrong dating advice · converting to Mormonism · tattoomaxxing · intrasexual competition · retardmaxxing · unspoken rizz · the 40k lore-dump · Good-boy points · assume rapport & attraction · frame splicing · Pay/don't pay · semen retention · bone-smashing · vocal physiognomy · incels who fuck

Layer 8

male body count matters · becoming famous · always assume · service-robot nibbāna (Roombāna) · seduction as mystery · leg-lengthening surgery · recursive shit test · autistic hypersexuality · She fell for the frame · women aren't attracted to money · drugdealermaxxing · frame multiplexing · liminoid bubbles · inducing self-qualification · Silence is a shit test · You are her reality · cult-leader aura farming

Layer 9

ontological hyperpresence · LKI trap (Deadman's Rizz) · sorcery speed trauma-dump · NLP vibe-coding · Ghost-flirt bounce · kenotic frame collapse · just be yourself only works if you've built a self · belief transmission · Tactical rapport-delay · Ship of Theseus frame · Identity-level congruence · Zeno's escalation · astrology is real · stream-entry · resolving on Layer 7b · wingman.live

Layer 10 (floor)

transition–detransition gambit · quantum attraction mapping · make her feel seen by God · you were the wingman all along · null frame injection · the identity palimpsest · ouroboros escalation · The Frame Grail · cursed gait game · there is no game · prophylactically induced midlife crisis

Encyclopedia use

An iceberg is a joke format. The encyclopedia underneath it is not. Named techniques get pages with Method sections. Folk clichés redirect here or to the real article ("just be yourself" → Authenticity). Tongue-in-cheek floor entries stay on this page.

References

↑ Pickup artist. Wikipedia. Retrieved 18 September 2026.

[wp-1] Pickup artist. Wikipedia. Retrieved 18 September 2026.

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