Never explain, never justify

Do not hold a trial for your frame

Never explain, never justify

Chess (Commons). Don't put your frame on trial.
Field	Pickup
Also known as	NENJ, don't justify
Origin	Pickup / frame jargon on the dating iceberg
Related	Frame (seduction); Shit test; Agree and amplify; Congruence

Never explain, never justify is iceberg jargon for not putting your frame on trial. A shit test that becomes a dissertation is you leaving the lead. In practice: one calm line, or agree and amplify, then lead. You can still be a decent human. This is not 'never apologize for being a jerk.'

Method

1. When she probes ('are you hitting on me?'), don't litigate. Amplify or agree and move.
2. If you actually stepped on her, a short sorry and a change of beat is congruence, not weakness.
3. Do not write a manifesto in the texts.

Failure mode

Using NENJ to dodge a real apology. Or explaining for six minutes why your joke was funny.

See also

• Frame (seduction)
• Shit test
• Agree and amplify
• Never seek approval