Don't chase

Stop pursuing a maybe; let her spend

Don't chase

Door (Commons). Don't chase: you have somewhere to be.
Field	Pickup
Also known as	not chasing, stop chasing
Origin	Folk line; pickup usage outcome independence
Related	Outcome independence; Takeaway (pickup); Investment; Pedestal

Don't chase is folk advice that is true only after you have a self and other options. In practice it means: stop pouring into a maybe. Investment should tilt toward her. Later pickup: takeaway, leading a real next beat, and a calendar that is not her.

Method

1. If you are the only one suggesting times, stop. Let the silence work or walk.
2. Have somewhere to be. That is a real takeaway, not a sulk.
3. Qualify. If you cannot name a deal-breaker, you are chasing. See pedestal.

Failure mode

Performing 'I don't chase' while texting six times. That is neediness.

See also

• Outcome independence
• Takeaway (pickup)
• Investment
• Pedestal
• Neediness