Build intrigue, not familiarity

Be someone to find out about, not an open résumé

Build intrigue, not familiarity

Masks (Commons). Intrigue is a self, not a riddle.
Field	Pickup
Also known as	intrigue not familiarity, mystery (ordinary)
Origin	Folk / pickup overlap
Related	Show, don't tell; Seeding; Rapport; Congruence

Build intrigue, not familiarity means she should want the next beat, not already have your CV. In practice: that is show, don't tell plus a life. It is not being a closed book for its own sake. Authenticity still requires you be something — intrigue without a self is just withholding.

Method

1. Do not dump job, salary, itinerary in the first five minutes.
2. Seed a real thing (a place, a story) and cash it later.
3. Answer some questions. A man with no facts is not intriguing. He is empty.

Failure mode

Mysterious mute. Or the résumé dump. Both miss.

See also

• Show, don't tell
• Seeding
• Authenticity
• Congruence
• Rapport