Don't be a friend

Don't build a platonic résumé if you want her

Don't be a friend

Conversation (Commons). Friend-shaped talk is a choice.
Field	Pickup
Also known as	not just friends, avoid the friend zone
Origin	Folk / pickup
Related	The friend zone; Sexualization; Attraction before comfort; Direct game

Don't be a friend is folk wording for: if you want her, don't spend six weeks as unpaid company. Related: sexualization early, attraction before comfort, direct game. You can be warm. Warm plus no intent is a résumé for the friend zone.

Method

1. Intent she can see in the first conversation.
2. Don't become the 2 a.m. therapist.
3. If it is already platonic, you probably start over with someone else rather than 'confessing' after a year.

Failure mode

Being cold to avoid being a friend. That's just unpleasant. Intent is not cruelty.

See also

• The friend zone
• Sexualization
• Direct game
• Don't fix her problems