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{{Short description|You are not her caseworker in minute ten}} | {{Short description|You are not her caseworker in minute ten}} | ||
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| name | | name = Don't fix her problems | ||
| also | | also = don't be her therapist | ||
| field | | field = Pickup | ||
| origin | | origin = Iceberg / pickup | ||
| related = [[Rapport]]; [[The friend zone]]; [[Deep diving]]; [[Sexualization]] | | related = [[Rapport]]; [[The friend zone]]; [[Deep diving]]; [[Sexualization]] | ||
| image | | image = Conversation.jpg | ||
| caption | | caption = Conversation (Commons). Rapport is not casework. | ||
| alt | | alt = Conversation | ||
}} | }} | ||
'''Don't fix her problems''' is iceberg advice: you are not her therapist on first contact. In practice: [[rapport]] is a beat, not a clinic. [[Deep diving]] is her talking about something real — not you solving her landlord.<ref name="wp">{{cite web |url=https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist |title=Pickup artist |website=Wikipedia | '''Don't fix her problems''' is iceberg advice: you are not her therapist on first contact. In practice: [[rapport]] is a beat, not a clinic. [[Deep diving]] is her talking about something real — not you solving her landlord.<ref name="wp">{{cite web |url=https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist |title=Pickup artist |website=Wikipedia |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref><ref name="ice">{{cite web |url=https://seduction.wiki/wiki/Dating_iceberg |title=Dating iceberg |website=Seduction Wiki |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref> | ||
== Method == | == Method == | ||
Latest revision as of 09:05, 18 September 2026
 Conversation (Commons). Rapport is not casework.
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| Field | Pickup |
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| Also known as | don't be her therapist |
| Origin | Iceberg / pickup |
| Related | Rapport; The friend zone; Deep diving; Sexualization |
Don't fix her problems is iceberg advice: you are not her therapist on first contact. In practice: rapport is a beat, not a clinic. Deep diving is her talking about something real — not you solving her landlord.[1][2]
Method
- Listen one beat. Don't leap to a plan.
- Tease or lead out of the hole. You are not the help desk.
- If the whole set is her venting, you are in friend-shaped territory. Sexualize or leave.
Failure mode
Fixing as a way to be useful because you have no other game. That's the nice-guy funnel.
See also
References
- ↑ Pickup artist. Wikipedia. Retrieved 18 September 2026.
- ↑ Dating iceberg. Seduction Wiki. Retrieved 18 September 2026.