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{{Short description|Be someone to find out about, not an open résumé}} | {{Short description|Be someone to find out about, not an open résumé}} | ||
{{Infobox term | {{Infobox term | ||
| name | | name = Build intrigue, not familiarity | ||
| also | | also = intrigue not familiarity, mystery (ordinary) | ||
| field | | field = Pickup | ||
| origin | | origin = Folk / pickup overlap | ||
| related = [[Show, don't tell]]; [[Seeding]]; [[Rapport]]; [[Congruence]] | | related = [[Show, don't tell]]; [[Seeding]]; [[Rapport]]; [[Congruence]] | ||
| image | | image = Comedy and tragedy masks.svg | ||
| caption | | caption = Masks (Commons). Intrigue is a self, not a riddle. | ||
| alt | | alt = Comedy and tragedy masks | ||
}} | }} | ||
'''Build intrigue, not familiarity''' means she should want the next beat, not already have your CV. | '''Build intrigue, not familiarity''' means she should want the next beat, not already have your CV. In practice: that is [[show, don't tell]] plus a life. It is not being a closed book for its own sake. [[Authenticity]] still requires you '''be something''' — intrigue without a self is just withholding.<ref name="wp">{{cite web |url=https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist |title=Pickup artist |website=Wikipedia |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref><ref name="ice">{{cite web |url=https://seduction.wiki/wiki/Dating_iceberg |title=Dating iceberg |website=Seduction Wiki |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref> | ||
== Method == | == Method == | ||
Latest revision as of 09:05, 18 September 2026
 Masks (Commons). Intrigue is a self, not a riddle.
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| Field | Pickup |
|---|---|
| Also known as | intrigue not familiarity, mystery (ordinary) |
| Origin | Folk / pickup overlap |
| Related | Show, don't tell; Seeding; Rapport; Congruence |
Build intrigue, not familiarity means she should want the next beat, not already have your CV. In practice: that is show, don't tell plus a life. It is not being a closed book for its own sake. Authenticity still requires you be something — intrigue without a self is just withholding.[1][2]
Method
- Do not dump job, salary, itinerary in the first five minutes.
- Seed a real thing (a place, a story) and cash it later.
- Answer some questions. A man with no facts is not intriguing. He is empty.
Failure mode
Mysterious mute. Or the résumé dump. Both miss.
See also
References
- ↑ Pickup artist. Wikipedia. Retrieved 18 September 2026.
- ↑ Dating iceberg. Seduction Wiki. Retrieved 18 September 2026.