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{{Short description|You are not her caseworker in minute ten}}
{{Infobox term
| name = Don't fix her problems
| also = don't be her therapist
| field = Pickup
| origin = Iceberg / pickup
| related = [[Rapport]]; [[The friend zone]]; [[Deep diving]]; [[Sexualization]]
| image = Conversation.jpg
| caption = Conversation (Commons). Rapport is not casework.
| alt = Conversation
}}
'''Don't fix her problems''' is iceberg advice: you are not her therapist on first contact. In practice: [[rapport]] is a beat, not a clinic. [[Deep diving]] is her talking about something real — not you solving her landlord.<ref name="wp">{{cite web |url=https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist |title=Pickup artist |website=Wikipedia |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref><ref name="ice">{{cite web |url=https://seduction.wiki/wiki/Dating_iceberg |title=Dating iceberg |website=Seduction Wiki |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref>

== Method ==
# Listen one beat. Don't leap to a plan.
# Tease or lead out of the hole. You are not the help desk.
# If the whole set is her venting, you are in friend-shaped territory. Sexualize or leave.

== Failure mode ==
Fixing as a way to be useful because you have no other game. That's the nice-guy funnel.

== See also ==
* [[Rapport]]
* [[The friend zone]]
* [[Deep diving]]
* [[Don't be a friend]]

== References ==
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[[Category:Pickup artist terminology]]
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