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{{Short description|Do not hold a trial for your frame}}
{{Infobox term
| name    = Never explain, never justify
| also    = NENJ, don't justify
| field   = Pickup
| origin  = Pickup / frame jargon on the [[dating iceberg]]
| related = [[Frame (seduction)]]; [[Shit test]]; [[Agree and amplify]]; [[Congruence]]
| image          = Chess pieces.jpg
| caption        = Chess (Commons). Don't put your frame on trial.
| alt            = Chess pieces
}}
'''Never explain, never justify''' is iceberg jargon for not putting your [[frame (seduction)|frame]] on trial. A [[shit test]] that becomes a dissertation is you leaving the lead. House reading: one calm line, or [[agree and amplify]], then [[lead]]. You can still be a decent human. This is not 'never apologize for being a jerk.'<ref name="gc">{{cite web |url=https://www.girlschase.com/ |title=Girls Chase |website=girlschase.com |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref><ref name="na">{{cite web |url=https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/newbie-assignment.34/ |title=Newbie Assignment |author=Chase Amante |website=Skilled Seducer |date=3 November 2012 |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref><ref name="ice">{{cite web |url=https://seduction.wiki/wiki/Dating_iceberg |title=Dating iceberg |website=Seduction Wiki |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref>

== Method ==
# When she probes ('are you hitting on me?'), don't litigate. Amplify or agree and move.
# If you actually stepped on her, a short sorry and a change of beat is congruence, not weakness.
# Do not write a manifesto in the texts.

== Failure mode ==
Using NENJ to dodge a real apology. Or explaining for six minutes why your joke was funny.

== See also ==
* [[Frame (seduction)]]
* [[Shit test]]
* [[Agree and amplify]]
* [[Never seek approval]]

== References ==
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[[Category:Pickup artist terminology]]
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[[Category:Pickup]]