Attainability
 Conversation (Commons). Attainability is whether she can see herself with you.
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Attainability is whether she can see herself with you — not only whether you are attractive. Later pickup writing treats it as a third rail next to attraction and logistics. A woman can want you and still eject because the match feels socially or physically "not allowed": height, race, age, status gap, a watching friend-group, a boyfriend frame she has not dropped. [1] Chase's diagnosis of the common failure: you generated attraction, then made yourself unattainable — too fast, too smooth, too much of a stranger, or you highlighted the gap she is already insecure about. Or the reverse: you were so attainable you became a nice-guy default and there was nothing to chase.
House moves, paraphrased:
- Do not argue the hang-up ("height doesn't matter"). That names the wound.
- Keep frame. Let the attraction sit. Chase notes these women often "fall over hard afterwards" when the block is real attraction plus lack of control — which is not a license to steamroll a no.
- Screening exists. Some blocks are hers to keep. Walk.
This is not Mystery qualification (A3 screening her). Attainability is whether you are a possible boyfriend/lover in her head.
See also
References
- ↑ Pickup artist. Wikipedia. Retrieved 18 September 2026.