Auto-rejection

Auto-rejection

Field	Inner game
Also known as	pre-rejection, self-rejection

Auto-rejection is rejecting yourself (or her) in advance so the feared rejection never has to arrive from outside. You don't open; you decide she would have said no. You flake first. You friend-zone yourself.

It is the inner-game twin of approach anxiety and a common engine under one-itis (better to keep the fantasy than risk the no). The Newbie assignment's "hi" days exist to make auto-rejection expensive: you are not allowed home until the reps are done.

See also

• Approach anxiety
• Outcome independence
• One-itis
• Average frustrated chump

Sources

• C:\Users\Robert\Desktop\glossary.md (2024-01-09), local PUA crib sheet. Encyclopedia expansion, not a paste.