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{{Short description|Don't build a platonic résumé if you want her}}
{{Infobox term
| name    = Don't be a friend
| also    = not just friends, avoid the friend zone
| field   = Pickup
| origin  = Folk / [[Girls Chase]]
| related = [[The friend zone]]; [[Sexualization]]; [[Attraction before comfort]]; [[Direct game]]
| image          = Conversation.jpg
| caption        = Conversation (Commons). Friend-shaped talk is a choice.
| alt            = Conversation
}}
'''Don't be a friend''' is folk wording for: if you want her, don't spend six weeks as unpaid company. House pages: [[sexualization]] early, [[attraction before comfort]], [[direct game]]. You can be warm. Warm plus no intent is a résumé for [[the friend zone]].<ref name="gc">{{cite web |url=https://www.girlschase.com/ |title=Girls Chase |website=girlschase.com |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref><ref name="na">{{cite web |url=https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/newbie-assignment.34/ |title=Newbie Assignment |author=Chase Amante |website=Skilled Seducer |date=3 November 2012 |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref><ref name="ice">{{cite web |url=https://seduction.wiki/wiki/Dating_iceberg |title=Dating iceberg |website=Seduction Wiki |access-date=18 September 2026}}</ref>

== Method ==
# Intent she can see in the first conversation.
# Don't become the 2 a.m. therapist.
# If it is already platonic, you probably start over with someone else rather than 'confessing' after a year.

== Failure mode ==
Being cold to avoid being a friend. That's just unpleasant. Intent is not cruelty.

== See also ==
* [[The friend zone]]
* [[Sexualization]]
* [[Direct game]]
* [[Don't fix her problems]]

== References ==
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[[Category:Pickup artist terminology]]
[[Category:Glossary]]
[[Category:Pickup]]